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Writing as healing: How journaling can help process grief

Grief is a deeply personal journey and one that doesn’t follow a set timeline or path. For many, finding a way to process overwhelming emotions can feel daunting. While there is no “right” way to grieve, journaling has emerged as a powerful tool for emotional healing and self-expression. Writing provides a safe space to release thoughts and feelings that may be difficult to share out loud, helping people work through pain in their own time and way.

In this article, we’ll explore how expressive writing can support healing after loss, the benefits of journaling for grief, and practical ways to begin.

Why writing can be healing during grief

When we experience loss, emotions often come in waves, ranging from sadness and anger to confusion, guilt, or even relief. These feelings can feel heavy and complex, and keeping them bottled up may prolong suffering. Writing offers a healthy outlet for release, giving shape to what can feel indescribable.
Unlike speaking, which can feel pressured or filtered, journaling is private. It allows you to express yourself freely without judgment. This raw honesty can help bring clarity, reduce emotional weight, and create a sense of relief.

The benefits of journaling for grief

Research has shown that expressive writing has mental, emotional, and even physical benefits. When used as part of the grieving process, journaling can:

  1. Provide emotional release: Writing down your feelings helps to release tension and reduce stress. It’s a form of catharsis, allowing emotions to move through rather than remain stuck inside.
  2. Clarify thoughts and emotions: Journaling can help you better understand what you’re feeling and why, which may ease confusion or inner conflict.
  3. Support healing over time: Revisiting earlier entries can highlight progress and reveal how your grief has evolved. This perspective can foster resilience and self-compassion.
  4. Reduce anxiety and improve sleep: Putting worries and emotions onto paper often eases the mind, allowing for better rest and a greater sense of peace.
  5. Strengthen memory and connection: Writing about your loved one can preserve memories, helping you feel connected to them while honouring their life.

How to begin journaling for grief

There is no single “correct” way to journal. It’s about finding what feels supportive for you. Here are a few approaches you might try:

  • Free writing: Simply write whatever comes to mind without editing or censoring yourself. Let your feelings flow freely.
  • Prompt-based journaling: Use prompts such as:
    • What do I miss most about my loved one?
    • What emotions am I carrying today?
    • What would I want to say to them if they were here?
  • Letters to your loved one: Writing letters can be a way of maintaining connection while processing loss.
  • Gratitude journaling: Focusing on moments of appreciation, no matter how small, can bring light during dark times.

Consistency is more important than perfection. Even a few minutes a day can have a positive impact.

Creating space for healing

Journaling is not about “fixing” grief. It’s about creating a compassionate space for healing. Whether you write daily, weekly, or only when emotions feel overwhelming, the act of putting words to paper can be an empowering step toward processing loss.

If you’re grieving and looking for gentle ways to cope, consider setting aside time for expressive writing. Your journal can become both a sanctuary and a witness to your healing journey.

Support alongside journaling

While journaling can be a valuable tool, it’s also important to seek additional support when needed. Talking with friends, family, peer support groups, or grief professionals can help you feel less alone.

Grief is not something you “get over.” It’s something you learn to live with and carry in new ways. Journaling offers a path toward emotional release, self-discovery, and resilience. Through writing, you may find comfort in expressing your story, honoring your loved one, and taking steps toward healing at your own pace.

At MAID Family Support Society, we provide resources, community, and compassionate guidance for those navigating grief and loss. If you’d like to explore more tools for healing, visit our Reading Room for articles, insights, and support.

 

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